The Big Lie

There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.
Proverbs 14:12

You boast, “We have entered into a covenant with death, with the grave we have made an agreement. When an overwhelming scourge sweeps by, it cannot touch us, for we have made a lie our refuge and falsehood our hiding place. Isaiah 28:15

They exchanged the truth of God for a lie and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator, who is forever praised. Amen.
Romans 1:25

It has always seemed to me by the above Scriptures and by years of working to help people to freedom from homosexuality that there is a big lie at the heart of this problem. But worse than a big lie is the fact that it is a big lie posing as the truth. It was a source of consternation to me that as I spoke to people who sincerely wanted freedom, when we got to the place of the big lie, their eyes would wander and resistance to seeing truth would be evident. Many people would not even want to go there, somehow feeling the condition of the Isaiah passage above. As Ron used to say, “Now the Bible was the problem and homosexuality had become the answer.”

So what is this big lie and how did it get there? Beginning in early childhood, something goes awry in the child’s life. It could be pain of rejection because of overworked parents, parents who did not want a child, parents who had their own emotional and/or sin issues, feeling inadequate because of body size or shape or being emotionally abused, feeling abandoned because of divorce or death or many other scenarios that would begin to cause pain and a false concept of themselves as different, weird or very unacceptable. The big lie has not come on the scene yet.

As the child lives in this pain and feeling of unacceptability, he or she will begin to pull into a world of unreality, a place where one does not have to deal with people or the possibility of hurt. In this state, there seems to be some control over the pain. In times of stress, the child will go to this unreal place to seek comfort and protection. The lie has begun—this is a place of emotional refuge that seems to protect and comfort the child, but really only isolates and sets the child up for the Big Lie. The emotions become the reference point for the child instead of truth and the child becomes his or her own authority. It is now Eden all over again—Who says these apples are bad for you?”

In this isolation world, which seems like a place of refuge, Satan can give the child many thoughts that feel good in the emotions but are directly against God’s truth. Thoughts like, “God allowed people to hurt me, so I guess He’s against me.”. “I want somebody who will do nice things to me, not let others hurt me like God did, and will protect me and hold me.” So the thoughts carry the child into a place of wanting connection since all connection has been cut off because of trying to protect themselves from being hurt again. More fuel is being added to the fire of the lie.

Then, the emotions kick in with the feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy. “I”ll never be accepted or loved.” “I’m funny-looking.” “I can’t ever do anything right.” “Nobody could love me.” Again, more power is given to the lie. So fantasy and masturbation begin with perhaps only thoughts of being held and having a lot of acceptance, love and words of approval. This fantasy and masturbation take the person into sexual unreality. If pornography is added, even greater sexual exaggeration and distortion is set up. The idea of sex with the same sex begins to form because it is coming from the place of arrested development borne out of isolation. (Healthy acceptance by the same sex in normal development was missed because of feeling unacceptable and rejected.)

When a person comes to this point and is confronted by another person who is a possible same-sex link, the entire flood of thoughts, emotions, false concepts of self and God all come up at once and cause the person to feel majorly out of control. As the person reaches for the same-sex link, the Big Lie hits! “This could be right; this could be my answer; this could be who I am.” They exchange the truth of God for a lie. The Big Lie is “ God is wrong, this is right.” That has always been the Big Lie. Satan sells it everyday and is looking to fool you.

The Big Truth is –God is always right. He does not do anything wrong. He is love; He is peace; He is joy. He wants you to be happy, full of delights and have your heart’s desire. He wants you to have true love, true connection and true sex—not the counterfeit from Satan that never delivers what it promises. Now we need to make the great exchange. That means seeing the truth, seeing the lies and exchanging the Big Lie for the Big Truth.

Generally this will not be easy because the person does not trust God (or any other authority figure). It is so important that God be seen as He really is—really on our side. One who sees us as His treasured possession. However, He does not want us going after false gods which is what we have made our homosexual “lovers”. And He does not want us to think we will be safe if we persist in going our own way. (Deuteronomy 29:19) He loves us unconditionally and knows what is best for us. For those who have bought into the Big Lie, it will be a great thing to come into the Big Truth and be set free. What a loving God we have and how sweet is intimacy with Him!

Some people believe they will never be set free from homosexuality, and therefore give up and think they were created that way. How could a loving God create someone homosexual and then say they will not inherit the Kingdom of God if they remain in this condition. No, never! God will set you totally free and desires to have you with Him for eternity. How great is the love of the Father toward us.

May we all come to our senses and escape the trap of Satan where he holds us in the Big Lie. One man in our ministry, when he sees aspects of the Big Lie, prays to invite those lies out. “I invite all hopelessness out of me in the Name of Jesus. I invite all doubts about God’s love out of me in the Name of Jesus.” He then catches any thoughts or emotions that would invite them back in, and resists them by the power of God. We can walk in truth and intimacy with God, but we must resist and cast out the Big Lie to make room for the glory of being filled with the Big Truth. And it will set us free.

The Big Lie
by Joanne Highley