After the shock of hearing that your son or daughter is involved in or is tempted by homosexual desires, you are left with your emotions truly disturbed and wondering, “What do I do now?” Your gut level reaction is to go get the son or daughter and keep them safe within your home for the…
The news of Pastor Ted Haggard from the New Life Church in Colorado Springs, Colorado and the president of the National Association of Evangelicals, having been involved with a male prostitute and using drugs during the experiences, was devastating. We had met him and his wife while we were in Colorado Springs as part of…
Have you confessed with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believed in your heart that God raised Him from the dead? If so, you are saved from the dominion of darkness and brought into the kingdom of Christ. You have been purified and born again because you have obeyed the truth which is the word…
I had my first sexual relationship with another boy when I was in middle school. We would meet on Sunday afternoons in a secluded place behind his house and fondle each other. Occasionally we would go into his house and literally hide in a closet to touch each other. We continued to meet like this…
Since the primary cause of homosexuality is ungodly reaction to pain in childhood, a major part of counseling toward freedom focuses on cleaning out buried negative emotions. We refer to this as “working the emotions”. The point of the pain in childhood or adolescence is the point of the addiction. The mind of the sensitive…
The pain caused by early wounds is not easily forgotten. Satan uses pain—particularly in childhood–to gain access to a person’s mind and will. Negative emotions that are not dealt with in a godly manner will be stored inside. When the person experiences another painful situation, that present pain connects with the reservoir of pain from…
Any effort to uproot homosexuality which does focus on the emotional roots of this evil desire will fail. The counselee must focus on his/her feelings in order to understand what causes homosexual attraction. Once these painful emotions are identified and the sinful reactions they gave rise to are acknowledged, the counselee can begin to do…
Homosexuality is much more than an erotic attraction to the same sex. It is a complicated and recurring syndrome of emotional reactions, twisted thinking, false concepts of self and God. It begins with the child’s ungodly reaction to pain and continues in subsequent years as that growing child continues to choose sinful behavior in an…
Gary is the youngest of four children. His father was an Italian-American longshoreman who worked hard to provide for his family. He married Gary’s mother, a native of Puerto Rico, even though his family wanted him to marry an Italian girl. Unfortunately, Gary’s mother never felt accepted by her husband’s family and this caused tension…
Homosexual desires are often rooted in a deep-seated case against God. Hot emotions such as anger, disappointment, confusion, or fear are stored from painful situations in childhood. From the pain the person questions why God permitted such things to happen. Many feel frustrated that God seemed to ignore their prayers and did just what He…
Many people with homosexual desire have settled for things as they seem to be. By this I mean that they have resigned themselves to “being” a certain way or to situations that just won’t change. They identify with their sin as though it were who they are. They speak of their failures, sin pattern, ungodly…
Since we were going to San Juan to teach counselors in November, one of our counselees, Ty Brodie, who had worked with the Billy Graham Crusade, and who grew up in Antigua, made arrangements for us to speak at his church, Bible Believer’s Fellowship in Cassada Gardens on November 13, 14 and 15, 2005. Dick…