There is an old story here at L.I.F.E. about a man who asked us in a support group meeting what he should do about resisting sin when another man comes to his door late at night and wants to have sex with him. We said, "Close the door!" It seems funny that we do not think of the obvious but rather feel a lot of conflicting emotions when faced with such a situation. Some people say they don't know what they would do in such a case. We always say that if you don't know what you would do when someone comes to you to tempt you, then your decision is already made for you.
Many people with homosexual desire have settled for things as they seem to be. By this I mean that they have resigned themselves to "being" a certain way or to situations that just won't change. They identify with their sin as though it were who they are. They speak of their failures, sin pattern, ungodly reactions, disposition and moods as though these were unchangeable. To settle means to accept or defend something rather than turning from and renouncing it. Years of painful experiences and unhealthy reactions make it difficult to see beyond the present condition; they feel they can't or won't develop another perspective. Sometimes they become defensive if this is pointed out. They may even reject the counsel you are giving them. This is beyond a passive resignation-this is identification with and justification of a bad viewpoint.
We have seen many times in the past 25 years of ministry that some people who have had breakdowns in their childhood or youth continued to suffer the effects of that breakdown for many years unless they are worked out of the person's emotions or mind. This is one of the major ways Satan works to paralyze the person emotionally and to block their way out of pain, fear and trauma.
Lust is a desire to have our way regardless of God's truth or another person's will. It is making a person an object to be used and not a person to relate to and learn to love. This ought not to be and we will see, causes very serious consequences.