I have been learning much about what grief is through the loss of my husband, Ron. We loved each other in very meaningful, intimate and romantic ways for forty-five years. We worked together, laughed together, prayed together, sang together, ate together, lived and loved friends and family together. It was a godly union, a covenant relationship that was God’s plan to show His approval and blessing on us. When Ron passed on to glory, I had such pain and loss that I went into this period of grief I now experience.
Resistance to or defiance of any authority, control or tradition. This is the definition found in my Random House Dictionary of the word rebellion. It is a word that is difficult to deal with in the context of homosexual ministry in that the person feels he or she did not choose this sin and therefore there is a resistance to seeing that the very act of homosexual sex is a form of rebellion since we all know that God did not create this form of sex.
Among Christian ministries that are working to help people who are ensnared in the addiction of homosexuality, there has developed a wide divergence of teaching in regard to being set free completely. By completely, we mean a person can be set free from the activity and the evil desires of this sin. Then that person would be without any homosexual manifestations and totally in touch with his or her created design of heterosexuality. This is the will of God and it is entirely possible.
God created the world and placed Adam and Eve there to have dominion over the earth and subdue it--to be fruitful and multiply and increase in number to fill the earth. After Adam and Eve were united as husband and wife, They were naked and felt no shame. But after they ate of the fruit of the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, their eyes were opened and they realized they were naked, and they made coverings for themselves.
In dealing with the problem of homosexuality, there is no “hotter” word than loneliness. It begins to create dejection within a person because he or she feels so alone and without someone to be with. This is rooted in years of feeling rejected, left out and abandoned. Many times the addictive reaction to this word will be set in notion by these feelings and a person will quickly seek sexual connection in an attempt to stop the pain of loneliness.
The Christian who has homosexual feelings and wants to live for God should be troubled by biblical passages that condemn homosexuality as sin. (cf.Leviticus 18:20; 20:13; Romans 1:18-32; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11; Jude 7) The human spirit knows intuitively that homosexuality is wrong. Moreover, the Word of God clearly teaches that homosexual desires are evil and the behaviors they motivate are sinful. However, even though the Christian knows that homosexual practice is wrong, he/she may at times crave it.
Looking at the dictionary, we see “intimacy” defined as close, familiar and usually affectionate or loving, personal relationships with another person or group. A quality or expression of familiarity, affection, love or passion. A sexually familiar act. The quality of affecting someone in a comfortably friendly or personally pleasing way. Privacy, especially the atmosphere of privacy suitable to the telling of a secret.
When dealing with homosexuality and other sexual addictions, one of the most important lessons is how to resist temptation. Most people who come to our ministry know they want to be free of this bondage, but the confounding reality is, if they have not worked their issues, they keep returning to the sin after they have repeatedly cried, prayed, fasted, read the Bible, put on the full armor of God, journalled, counseled and truly wanted to stop this sinful behavior. This can bring a person to many false conclusions: God does not care for He has turned a deaf ear to me.
Hope is the feeling that what is desired is possible and that events may turn out for the best. Or so says the dictionary. But the biblical concept of hope is far beyond this dim and sketchy definition of hope. The hope the Bible speaks of is robust and hearty, being rooted in putting our hope in the Word of God.
I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in His Word I put my hope.
Though we have a best-selling tape on this important subject, there are some further revelations that must be put forth. There is confusion about fantasy and masturbation because of ignorance on the part of teachers who teach this practice can be done by Christians to relieve stress or on the mutual consent of a married couple. We have found much to the contrary in the Scriptures. Let us look first at what fantasy/ masturbation is.