Much of contemporary society and many leaders in the Church have been persuaded that all people are primarily sexual beings and that they have a right to express themselves sexually. We consider this to be a false teaching about our humanity. We claim that we are primarily spiritual beings and that our sexuality is only a part of us: a God-given desire and ability to relate to the opposite sex in a way that leads to love, marriage and family.
In the great eighth chapter of Romans, which is the solution to St. Paul's wrestling with his sin in chapter seven, we see a profound truth. It is that those who live according to the flesh and are controlled by its unholy desires, set their minds on and pursue those things which gratify the flesh. But those who are according to the Spirit and are controlled by the desires of the Spirit, set their minds on and seek those things which gratify the Holy Spirit. So the life of the Spirit requires a mind change.